Wednesday, 29 February 2012

A little bit of fun

Last night me and Dana were talking about this blog and I mentioned that I had wrote about the man and the emergency. This then led onto funny sex stories and Dana shared one with me which I will now share with you (sorry Dana) J

So a few years ago she was dating a DJ at a club she worked at. One night they had a leaving party for someone and she decided that rather than drive she would stay at a hotel with Mr DJ. The alcohol was flowing and Dana got a little bit drunk. Ok I am lying she got absolutely smashed. Another thing I need to mention is a previous ex of hers, another DJ I might add (I think she has a thing for them) was also at the same party and staying at the same hotel. Once the party had ended and Mr DJ managed to get poor drunken Dana back to the hotel she then decided that she needed the toilet but rather than use the one in the room the clever girl thought she would go look for one outside in the lobby. This resulted in her being locked out in just a t-shirt and underwear. Yep classy all the way. Doing the only thing she could think of she proceeded to walk to reception to ask for them to let her back into the room. The only problem was Dana obviously forgot who she was currently seeing and actually gave the ex’s name. Needless to say he was certainly impressed when she climbed into bed with him and she was just as shocked when she woke up the next morning to find out the guy she had given a night of passion to was in fact not the guy she had gone home with.

Good girl!

Tuesday, 28 February 2012

A little more about me

I realised that since the first post I haven’t actually told you a lot about myself and thought now would be a good time to tell you a little more.  

One thing you probably should know is I have been married. Yep I know shocker! Obviously now I am not, but once upon a time I had a fairy-tale wedding and a happily ever after. I loved being married and I loved my husband a lot. Unfortunately we grew apart and he made the decision (the correct one I might add) to leave. At the time I didn’t see this as being the right thing to do and I have never felt as sad and low as I did at that point in time. This was a few years ago and now we are friends and I cannot see him as anything other than that. I will never forget my Mum sitting with me the day he left and telling me I would be ok. You really can’t see it for yourself when things like that happen but Mums are always right and soon enough I picked myself up and got back on the horse, so to say! J

After this I did go to a little bit of a bad place but boy did I have fun doing it. I became what Dana used to be with the love em and leave em. I wasn’t always nice with it though and would do what needed to be done and never want anything to do with them again. More recently this has happened to me and I know it isn’t a nice feeling but at the time I really didn’t care.

I am not saying that in the last year I have been a total saint but that really is another story for another time!  

That’s all for now but I am sure over time I will share a little more and maybe even tell you about some of my past experiences. Like the time my sister had to fake an emergency so I could get a man to leave my house after I was finished with him (I really hope he never reads this as still to this day he doesn’t know the truth).

Monday, 27 February 2012

The pros and cons of being single

Ok so I know this is supposed to be a diary but I really haven’t done anything that interesting recently that I thought you guys would want to read about. There isn’t really any “potentials” around and too be honest I am not actually looking for any.  Don’t worry though as soon as anyone comes on the scene you guys will be the first to know about it.

In the meantime I am going to write about the Pro’s and cons of being single. Now this goes for both men and women.

Firstly I will start with the cons

It can get lonely sometimes

I find I don’t get plus ones to events and even if I did I don’t always have someone to take

You don’t get sex on tap (however depending on how long you have been together this could be a pro)

Ok that’s all I can think of J

Now for the pro’s:

The most obvious one is of course having the bed to yourself so you can starfish and not worry about banging into someone else. I sleep so much better now than I ever did when I was with my ex (an actual real long-term ex and not Mr FWB)

If you buy something nice to eat, chocolate for example, you don’t have to share. It is all yours!

One for the girls is never having to share your closet with anyone. I already have 2 wardrobes and a chest of draws and this still isn’t enough space. No way could anyone else squeeze anything in.

One for the men. Porn is far cheaper and comes in a lot more varieties!

The only annoying friends you have to deal with are your own .

You can be the crazy wild friend with all the juicy stories that make your non single friends jealous of.


There is only one way to do things – your way.

Obviously this is all a bit of fun and I am sure there are more cons but hey what single girl really wants to think about them. I would love to hear what more pro’s you guys can think of though!

Friday, 24 February 2012

Friends with benefits

Ok so as I informed you in my first post, up until recently I had been seeing someone who thought of me as nothing more than a friend with benefits. Obviously this was not what I thought was happening so that was the first problem with it. In this post I want to talk about the idea of friends with benefits and if both parties can truly be ok with it.

To be a "FWB" I am assuming you have to be a friend and you have to find the person attractive enough to want to sleep with them. So why is this different to wanting to be in a relationship? Maybe with a relationship there is too much commitment and this panics some people. I personally do not think "FWB"'s can work as someone always wants more than the other. This is completely understandable behaviour as unlike a one night stand you actually get to know the person and spend time with them. If you didn't care for them then you wouldn't want to do this. I know some people who have decided to have a casual relationship and have set ground rules but at the end of it I have always seen someone get hurt. Male and female.

After the ending of a "FWB" can you go back to being just friends? I don't think this is really possible either. If one person didn't want it to end then there will always be the question of "Why was I not good enough for more". I am not speaking with my recent benefiter and I don't plan to for a long time but hey that is just me!

So from now on no friends with benefits for me and I will stick strictly to one night stands J 

Thursday, 23 February 2012

Introducing Dana

Ok so as I mentioned yesterday I have a couple of single friends who plan to join me on the adventure of embracing the single status. One of these friends is my slightly man eating friend Dana. Now only slightly as up until recently she has been in a fairly long term relationship. Well long term for her anyway. However when I first met Dana she was very much a "love em and leave em" kind of girl. Men would fall for her very quickly and very hard but the first sign of anything serious and she would run for the hills without even looking back.

This all changed when she met her recent ex. We shall call him "Brian". The relationship she had with Brian was what I believe to be her first serious relationship but it really had its ups and downs. They were forever breaking and making up. I do think she loved him and possibly still does however I think she has now realised they clash a little too much. So back to being the fun time single girl she once was. She has told me her first plan is to meet as many men as she can and tell each of them her birthday is on a different day. This will hopefully then result in a showering of gifts. Tell me, what girl doesn't love gifts. I am not sure if this is going to work but I will be interested to see if she succeeds in her mission.

 I am currently trying to convince Dana that she should come to Vegas with me. I have been before and it is certainly a good playground for the single girl!

Wednesday, 22 February 2012

The first entry

I decided to write this blog as a way of expressing my feelings whether they be love, hate, happiness or sadness. I am a little too old to write in a diary and besides what is the fun in writing it in a place where no-one can read it.

As this is my first blog I will tell you a little bit about myself. I will keep my name anonymous as there will be some private things I will share and I don't want people putting 2 and 2 together and working out who I am. I am late 20's and obviously as the title suggests, I am single. Up until recently I was seeing someone however it turns out what I thought was a progressive relationship was in fact friends with benefits. Not only that but the guy in question proceeded to tell me this after a year via a text message on my birthday! Charming I know. Now this isn't a man blasting blog as I know plenty of nice guys. I have just yet to meet Mr Right. However after this happened I decided that I would take some time for myself and embrace being a single girl. A couple of my friends have become newly single as well and together we plan to spend this next year really looking out for ourselves.

Not only will I let you know what I have being doing but I will also keep you up to date with them. We are all very different so I think it would make for an interesting read to hear how we all have dealt with the issues of being single girls in today's world!

I hope you enjoy this and I promise to try and keep it as juicy and as interesting as I possibly can!