Last night

Last night it was a friend’s birthday so a group of us all went out. We actually ventured out to the place I was supposed to go on my birthday before Mr FWB ruined all that. I have to say I was a little apprehensive about going there as the last time I had been there I was with “him”.

I really do believe I handled it really well and I enjoyed myself a lot. That isn’t to say the night didn’t remind me of him and yes at times I felt like I wanted to contact him. I didn’t though which I believe was a step in the right direction. It helped that I had a friend contacting me who was giving me a pep talk on how he was no good for me and I deserved so much better. Some friends are just great aren’t they!

Gold star to me for not giving into temptation.

This morning I woke up to my Dad spraying water on my bedroom window with a power washer. The reason you ask, oh well he wanted to wake me up because he was “lonely” and wanted someone to talk to. Yes my parents are a little like children but I wouldn’t have them any other way. I am however rethinking my idea of moving out as I really do like a lay in on a Saturday. J

So my plans for the rest of the weekend are as follow, go for a walk with Dad (need to keep the old guy entertained). Try and find some new boots for work, which I might add is a lot harder than people think and if anyone knows of any good websites please let me know. Tonight I plan to just relax and watch a film (can’t be doing this two nights out in a row business) and then tomorrow I don’t really have any plans but I am sure someone somewhere will be having me doing something.

Hope you are all having great weekends! –x-

Yay!

I have received some great news today. My friend who has been struggling with getting her UK visa has informed me today that it looks like she has solved the issue and will be on her way to live and work here soon. I cannot wait until she gets here and am literally bursting with excitement.

I met her whilst travelling and we clicked from the moment we first spoke to each other. It’s funny how that can happen isn’t it. There are people who I have been friends with for years who I still don’t click with as much as what I do this person.

I think her being here is going to encourage me to want to leave again as she will be here for some months and then go off travelling again. I am just going to be too tempted to join her. Ahhhh!

Guess that means I won’t be moving out of home for the time being. Oh well who really wants independence anyway.

So my friend who reads my blog messaged me to talk about yesterday’s post and he told me that it made him think of his favourite quote  "I'd rather be alone for the right reasons, than be with someone for the wrong ones". This is so true and a perfect reflection of how I feel right now! J

A little moan! (no not the good kind)

Yesterday was a good day! Well except for having to work and being stuck in traffic for ages.

The sun was shining, I got to spend my lunch gossiping with some work colleagues in the sun (what girls don’t love to gossip). Then last night I spoke to a friend I met whilst travelling for about an hour and a half on the phone catching up and reminiscing. The only problem with the catch up was it has really really made me want to go away again. This weather whilst amazing isn’t helping.

Anyway enough of what I want to do! I have a moan that I need getting off my chest. Now as I have said many times I have no problem with being single (if I say it enough times I may start believing it). Only playing, I do genuinely have no issue with it. The issue I do have is how other people treat you.

Last night my parents kindly asked me if I wanted to go to a work function with them. A dinner/dance type thing. However they started the conversation with “I don’t suppose you could find a date for the end of April could you”. Well the answer was no (I probably could, I am just making a point). Anyway they implied that this kind of event was really only for couples. Why? Do I need a partner to feed me! Am I not able to have a dance with my family and their friends! Obviously not.

I know they didn’t mean anything by it but it does still annoy me how you are treated differently when you are single. I don’t have the plague. I promise!

Ok rant over J

-x-

Time to be a little more upbeat!

I am reading another blog from a single girl and today went back to when she first started writing it (I haven’t been reading it long). Recently she has seemed a little depressed about being single and having thoughts of how she is never going to find “the one”. I wanted to see what her outlook was like a few years ago and as I imagined she was a lot more upbeat and seemed far more optimistic about life.

I think it is a shame where she is at now and really do feel for her. I just wanted to say to her (if she is reading this) and everyone else not to feel sad about anything you cannot change. I do not have a boyfriend as you all know and yes I do feel a little down about it at times but I as I cannot click my fingers and change the situation I do not see the point in worrying about it. It would make for a very sad life if I was to let it bother me all the time. Do I ever think I won’t find anyone again? No! There is absolutely no reason why I won’t so therefore I believe it will happen.

So the weekend gone was a very good one however it left me with a lot of thoughts and decisions to make. Saturday I went for a coffee with my Mum and we talked about my plans and what I wanted to do. I currently live at home and do want to move out however I also want to move away. Potentially to another country! I do not really see what I have round here to actually keep me. I love my family and I would miss them but I think if the opportunity arose for me to go then I would take it. This is all early days stuff at the moment but still something to think about. Give me a week and I will be back to my original decision of moving closer to work (yes I am just that indecisive).

Anyway I hope you all had good weekends and for any of you who didn’t – chin up, it’s not the end of the world. You always have next weekend to make an improvement! J

Sending any of you who think you are missing out a big hug and lots of love! -x -

My weekend coming!

So isn’t it strange how one day you can feel down and the next day feel better. Yesterday was a bit of a down day however today I feel ok. Probably because it is Friday, the sun is shining and I have a good weekend lined up.

Tonight I am off to my Sister’s for dinner (she is an amazing cook so this is definitely something to look forward to). Tomorrow day time I am meeting up with a friend who I haven’t seen for ages. Tomorrow night I am off for dinner and to the cinema and then Sunday I am playing golf (yes another thing you didn’t know about me) and going to a BBQ (still however waiting for the invite from my brother in law).

I had a bit of a confidence boost last night as well. A guy 5 years younger than me contacted me online and asked if there was a chance I would be interested in going for a drink with him. He was nice looking however even I know 5 years is too young and therefore thanked him but declined the offer. I was flattered though! J

Anyway I hope you all have great plans for the weekend

-x-

Get over it!

Firstly let me apologise for the lack of updates recently. I have actually had to do some work the last couple of days and haven’t had the chance to get on here. This has also made me tired when I get home so I have pretty much got in had dinner and either watched TV or read a book. This in turn has left me alone with my own thoughts. A dangerous concept I can assure you. This leads me on to today’s post……!

I am not going to lie I have been struggling with getting over Mr FWB. I am not sure why this is any different to anyone else I have had a relationship with but I do think it has a lot to do with the fact we work together and therefore have to speak to each other. In the past if things have ended with someone I have usually done the normal hide their Facebook notifications, deleted their number and not seen them. Well I have done the first two with Mr FWB but obviously unless I want to leave my job I cannot do the third. So how do you stop yourself from caring?

Some of my friends do not seem to quite understand or at least they have forgotten what it feels like to have this happen so when they say “just forget him” and call him names it doesn’t really help. The thing is I would do exactly the same if I was in their position, unfortunately I have realised that It just makes you feel more like you can’t talk about it as you don’t want them to think you are not coping and sound like a broken record.

I truly think the only way to get over someone you like is to meet someone else. Can you really do that though when your mind is always stuck in the past? Speaking from experience I believe you can as I moved on from my ex-husband but I don’t think it is a quick process or an easy one.

I said above that this was different to other relationships however in all honesty I think I feel like it is because it is the freshest and really they all felt like this. Just proves though that eventually it doesn’t seem so bad. I just wish that feeling would bloody hurry up and get here so I can feel like my wonderful self again! J

Oh well nearly the weekend!

-x-

The date

So this weekend was date weekend. Unfortunately guys I don’t have great news for you. The guy in particular was very nice and fairly good looking. There just wasn’t the connection that I wanted.

I am looking for someone who can really make me laugh and unfortunately it was not going to be him. As I said he was a lovely guy and we did get along but I wasn’t exactly wishing time to stand still so we could spend longer together. If anything I was thinking how I would rather have been at home having a cup of tea and a chat with my Mum and Dad. That makes him sound boring which isn’t fair as he really wasn’t and conversation flowed fine. If I am honest I kept thinking how very different it was being there with him to being out with Mr FWB. Don’t get me wrong that doesn’t mean that I want Mr FWB it just means don’t want anything less than the fun we had.

This has kind of confirmed though that online dating isn’t really the right thing for me. I will stay online for now (I am signed up for 3 months so would be pointless coming off) I am just not going to pin my hopes on meeting someone on there. I think there is too much pressure on the first date to hopefully find each other the perfect match without actually getting to know each other as friends. As I have said before I am a big believer in being friends first and then building a relationship from that. This is obviously just my opinion and that doesn’t mean I would ever tell anyone not to give it ago. At the end of the day you really have nothing to lose trying these things.

Unfortunately Mr Online was interested in me and asked to see me again to which I explained he wasn’t what I was looking for. I did not enjoy doing that one little bit and afterwards felt really bad. I couldn’t however have gone on another date with him knowing I was only doing it for his sake and not my own. I also wasn’t going to lie and do the whole “it’s not you, it’s me” as the truth is it was a bit of both.

On a slightly brighter note Dana and I have decided to try speed dating. I think this is going to be a little better for me as there is less pressure with meeting someone and it actually looks like it could be a lot of fun. I will let you know when that is happening and keep you up to date with how it turns out.

For now however I am still Singlegirl! x